I ve'been following what's going on. One thing that could help you is concetrate on LL (first & second). Have you tried that?
And one suggestion: get a book called ILY but I am not in love by Andrew G. Marshall. Don't get worried with the title. It is very optimistic and is an "eye opener". As far as I am concerned it is a great book. It has 2-3 chapters on how to get back on track after a crisis. Sexually, mentally, with your hearts...
