I know we tell newcomers here that there is really very little that they can do to help a wandering spouse want to come home. Of course there are lots of things you can do to drive them further off.
I think peace is a powerful thing.
It seems to me that if a situation has any hope of successful reconciliation, establishing peace between the two estranged spouses is important.
It's not that we have to be all lovey-dovey and friendly like. I think it's just enough that WE finally get to the point where we are treating situations the way we NORMALLY would, not like the scorned and rejected spouse that we often feel like.
I'm not saying it is the golden key or anything (especially since that golden key doesn't really exist as we all know), it just seems to me that conflict, pressure, and tension between spouses, ESPECIALLY during this time, does nothing but drive them further apart.
Peace.
The ability to be who you are and react according to who you are.
Being willing to respond like you would have responded BEFORE the bomb.
These things are good for US, and in the end may just be a positive contribution towards the better relationship side with our estranged spouse.
Whether it's a reconciled relationship, or a new co-parenting relationship.
You sound pretty good Frank. I'm glad for you.
Blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 02/08/0807:36 PM.
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