LWB, I can't believe he is still blaming everything on you! Yeah, he's such a SAINT!
Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
Hey Ladies, I say we get the DBing female mafia rounded up and go rough up LWB's H and then we head north to take care of Sue's H. They both need a swift kick in th a$$ plus a lobotomy. Maybe Dr. Love aka Husband will help us with the medical procedures!
Only if he shows up in his man panties with big ole DB printed on them, right where it counts... And a red cape around his neck and a mask on his face. (Here he comes to save the LBS!) (Are you up for the challenge Dr. Love?)
If it makes you feel any better, probably not, things sort of fell apart in my house tonight, too. I may resurrect my thread....'
You hang tough, as you've done all these months. I can't believe OW's H is going to try again with her. Incredible...
He actually said I am getting my punishment (an unwanted D) for being a bad wife.
Oh brother! That's actually really funny... like D at this point would be punishment??? Oh gosh, sometimes these people are too funny.
I hope you smiled and nicely said,"Well actually, at this point sweetheart, it's starting to seem more like a gift than a punishment."
(You do realize, the anger and blame indicates he's not making a decision based on calm rationality.... and decisions made in anger are usually the ones we regret.... but don't worry about that. It's his problem. Keep detaching).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I can't believe OW's H is going to try again with her. Incredible...
I know we all had some issues in our M's to begin with and that's why we're here. But, I've thought before about what you said above Joie. Yes, our S's were 50/50 in this. But it's tough when someone (OP) comes in, tramples over your life leaving a complete disaster behind and then gets to go back to their life with their S to try again while you're left here hanging by a thread. Just a thought that runs through my head when I'm in that "not fair, not fair", "woe is me" mood I guess. I'm happy that those kids are getting a chance at being in an intact family also, but pissed that OUR lwb has to bust her a$$ to save her M, while this OW gets to just walk back in the door to the open arms of her H. Sorry lwb, I'm just really angry for you. You're such a wonderful person!
Sue
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Good point, Sue. I hadn't thought of that. You're right, it's not fair at all. And the OW in LWBs sitch has messed up a lot of lives with all her affairs.
I go between losing my mind and being fairly clearheaded. Last night H upset me greatly at a Girl Scout function. He is lucky I didn't leave him at the school, seriously. We talked it out later (after I left the house for a LONG time). Just a series of disrespectful acts while at the function, stuff no one else would have noticed but he KNEW he did them.....
We are at 'peace' again. But he still wants out.....
I am up and down these days but appear normal to him....maintaining stability for the girls.
Sue, I agree, OW gets to jump right back into her marriage. Not fair. I have those thoughts as well. Its like out of the four of us (H, me, OW, OW's H), everyone seems to be getting what they want except for me. (I am stomping my feet right now!). It sucks.
