How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

Yeah, my H is also unhappy with the Army, school, work, life, etc. He felt he needed to make changes, and I guess it was easier to change us because all the stress had masked the good in our R (and/or if he blames me he can feel better about himself since I was holding him back), while he doesn't actually feel like he has the option to drop out of school and since he got fired work was out of his control.

I think the people who have EAs or PAs or both (unless they are just a$$holes) act out because they feel a lack of control and direction and are miserable/depressed and in denial. The A gives them a sense of doing something to improve their situation (while any rational person would know it only screws things up) and a temporary high from the newness of it all which makes them feel better (temporarily at least).