Hanging on to what I believe in!

[AliSuddenly]

I do think that some people (not all) can be "in love" or love two people at the same time. I was in this position in the past and for a while you can be in two minds. I wouldnt reccomend it (it does your head in) and I wont be doing it ever again, I've learnt my lesson...but I wonder if although he has these yearnings for an MOW, the other side of him could well still feel genuinely attached to you BA. In my own case, unfortunately the feelings for the OM took precedence because it was exciting and its kind of unrequited love, so it keeps you hooked in. But behind that, I could see deep down I was making a mistake and I still loved my BF and was committed to him. Your H hasnt made a move to leave, so he must still be committed to you?

Ali x
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Me: 36
H: 34
LT: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Own apartment: 26 Jan 08
3 months on