A few years ago knowing I would be seeing him would cause me to make sure I looked perfect, filled up the fridge with all his favorite things, and catered to his needs. Now, I know it's better to not play the Stepford wife role; that doesn't work, anyway.
It's important that you realize this. It's what he was telling you in the letters. This was about him, not you. I have seen you, through the years, make everything perfect for a warm return home. So, you can see, that this is not you or what you did.
I never want to discourage anyone from standing. It's good to do things to make home peaceful and nice. But, it's also important to be careful not to assume that it makes much of a difference, as we have had a few MLCers come back and tell us that in the thick of it, nothing we do really does and it's better to leave them alone.
So, the message is: look good for you. Do well in life for you. Be healthy for you. Work hard for you. Create peace for you.
That's all that matters in the end. That YOU come out of this sane.
