Loving a WAS isn't easy

[mymonkeybug]

Bryan-

You are right. He will get his half of the refund and if he so chooses to spend it all on a bike then so be it. He will later, as usual, beat himself up for doing so, but that is his problem not mine.

I will probably take the kids on a quick little fairly inexpensive trip to see the family in Mass. Heck we can have free room and board and pretty much free meals...lol. And I will also do what you suggest and plan more things around the area here that the 3 of us can do to get some more of a pattern of normalcy going for them.

Yes, H will eventually see my unconditional love and warm up to me again, I do believe that, but damn the wait and loneliness are hard. I am going to start looking into some local organizations that may be able to offer some financial help in this time of crisis for me. While H is not withholding any money, the paycut he took in Nov. which as I said was the final straw for him I believe, as well as the slowing down of the shop for him the last week are causing some rather drastic drops in the bring home income he is getting. His pay is direct deposited so I know about before he even does. I just hope he hasn't gone to them and told them to direct deposit X% and cut him a check for the rest. That would be sad.

I wish you the best in your sit. as well and know that your efforts will prove fruitful too. I hope in the coming months you and I will be able to share success stories with everyone here.