I am going to have to avoid your board, every time your D gets sick, my D gets sick within 48 hrs. Maybe we are exchanging germs through the internet...
Seriously, just thinking of you today. Hope all is well, as well as can be anyway...
Thanks for the pep talks Kalni and Better. BobbiJo, sorry your D is sick again.
H got back yesterday 5 min. before I had to take D10 to the rink for skating. H gave each D a necklace from his trip. I was happy for them because in the past he also got them something on his trips but he hasn't done that much in the last couple of years. Of course it hurt that I got nothing not even a hug, I missed you it is good to see you. My expectations were low, but it still hurt.
Took D to skating. H was left home w/ D15 who he later dropped off at her HS b-ball game. H then showed up at the rink which I didn't expect. He was texting as soon as he got there. Probably one of the EAs. Ended up getting a call, but it wasn't an EA just a coworker happy about someone quiting. H told D bye and I asked if he was going to the house or leaving for the night. H said he was headed to the house.
I decided to pick up dinner on the way home so I was nice and called H to see if he wanted anything but of course H didn't answer his cell. The house phone went straight to v-mail as he was on the computer. D tried calling his cell again at which point he called. After we got home he spent a little over an hour w/ us.
H told me his check for his stock from the sale of the co. he works for is waiting for him at work. It is a nice 6 figures and we plan to put a big chunk away for college for the Ds. H was talking about all the stuff we will be buying for the house. At one point I said well yeah we need x,y,z whether we sell the house or not. I just want to dump to much in the house if we aren't going to be staying here. No response. I said we will have to wait and see. I just don't know if he wants to ease all his guilt by getting parting gifts for me and the Ds or if he sees a future.
D10 had a friend over today who was supposed to go home at 11 which was when H was to come over. D wanted her fried to stay longer so I told her she had to call H and ask him. Of course H didn't answer. She tried 15min. later and got him. H said it was ok and he was running late.(again!) When H showed up I couldn't talk to him. I went to get my car out of the garage and the door wouldn't open. I tried to open w/ the emergency key but couldn't find it. H ended up telling me to take his car. When I got going there was a CD made by EA#1 who he claims as his best friend. The whole beginning was a bunch of love songs. Just what I as a married woman make for other married men.
I sent H the following text:
Me: Nice cd ur "friend" made u. Don't worry I figured out that u are done with me. I know there are other people more important to u.
H: Before you go reading too muc into a cd you may want to listen to the whole thing...you'll find tout there's no theme.
Me: Maybe, but as long as EA#1 and EA#2(I used their names) are a part of ur life i mean nothing.
H: I will continue to disagree with that.
Me: I want to believe u but u keep so many secrets.
No reply to that.
H texted me when he got the garage open. Also about burning a CD for my boss that I asked if he would do. Got home and showed him shirts I bought him. H showed me shoes he bought in CA. Now he is at church w/ D15. No mention of my text. H will probably say nothing of it. We will have to wait and see what happens next.
Thanks for posting on my thread, I feel the same way. When I read your posts today, I thought I can't help Liz tonight. We are on the same planet it seems. But still I got an idea: you keep mentioning EA#1 & 2. Are you sure, that is right? Because if there are 2 I wouldn't worry. These EA seem to be a one-on-one thing. So exclusive they leave us Ss out. How can both play a role in his life. Was the one after the other? You know how it goes, slowly and painfully (s$$$t!) I can't be of much help. Keep in touch, sometimes I lose you for a number of hours/days and I get worried...
L Kalni
PS. At least our Hs are good fathers (for the time being).
Thanks for posting on my thread, I feel the same way. When I read your posts today, I thought I can't help Liz tonight. We are on the same planet it seems. But still I got an idea: you keep mentioning EA#1 & 2. Are you sure, that is right? Because if there are 2 I wouldn't worry. These EA seem to be a one-on-one thing. So exclusive they leave us Ss out. How can both play a role in his life. Was the one after the other? You know how it goes, slowly and painfully (s$$$t!) I can't be of much help. Keep in touch, sometimes I lose you for a number of hours/days and I get worried...
L Kalni
PS. At least our Hs are good fathers (for the time being).
EA#1 is a bigger threat. She is H's "best friend." H calls her everyday as soon as he drops D off at school. It is always at least a 30min convo. H works w/ her and travels w/ her although he doesn't see her everyday. EA#2 works w/ h too. H doesn't talk to her as much but H keeps stuff about her a secret. I am pretty sure she was on the trip this week but H didn't tell me that. Some of the texts she sent in the past indicated she had feelings for H. So basically they are both going on but #1 is more intense. Don't know if they know about each other.
