We are in the exact same spot. I had a session with my C last night and in the end she told me she is all FOR the couple if they both want to be together, BUT she thinks I have a low self esteem problem because I seem to feel he is OK for me when he is not. She thinks he is a weak, unstable person and I need and deserve better (huh?).
She says most strong women settle for less because they are afraid they will not find what they really need. That's BS for me. Th weird thing I am experiencing at the moment is that although I really love(d) my H, the last couple of days I am feeling I am detaching rather fast. I can't help it and it seems I am going into a deep mourning phase (no crying and staff but silently aknowledging it's over inside). As BritinOH says, I am going to give it a couple of days/week to see how I will feel later. It could be the rollercoaster as most say. Who knows?
What I recognised as well, is that both of us seem to do fine on a everyday basis and feel strong enough and then something doesn't go as planned in our heads (phonecalls, interactions, etc) and it sets us back. As you may have guessed, he didn't call on Thursday and when I went to my C we talked about it and she pointed out that it shouldn't bother me but it did (I had planned not to see him anyway).
I don't know Liz, I feel I was better off on the early stages of all this, ever since I noticed small positive baby steps, I've become too eager for some action I don't see.
I think we must concetrate on what we want and check if anything has changed for us inside.
