Ok well I did it! I told my wife I would let her go, and I told off her engagement ring. I told her that I dont want her or me to be unhappy, so I hoped this would relieve some of the stress that had built up between us.
There were tears on both sides during this. We both apologied for our roles in the crumbling of the M. She said that she wished I could have realised there was a problem sooner, so we could have worked it out. I asked if it was really too late now, and she said she didnt know.
She said that she might spend some time thinking about her role in the M breakdown, I asked if we can talk about it togehter, and she said yes, that is something we can do as friends (she would not talk about this before). She knows I still have hope for the M, but now she also knows that I wont try and force her to stay.
She also has 2 other big stresses at the moment, she has a big test she is studying for, and her job is unsure at the moment. So she said she didnt have room in her emotional cup to think about me.
Overall, I still have hope.

Speak to you soon

Steve


Me 27
W 30
M 2yrs/ T 5yrs
Expecting our first child Sept 08
warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08
I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08
Living together.