You know, I have to agree with you about the DR book. I've told others that I think the techniques help the "dumpee" get a grip, get on with life, detach, and move on rather than help put your marriage back together. I think if a person has their mind made up, there is nothing you can do to change it. But you can do a lot to change yourself so you can accept the inevitable and move on. That's really the only thing DR did for me.
Everyday, I always repeat "I'm getting stronger every day," "I'm getting better every day." Daily positive reinforcements work wonders for your everyday well-being.
Have a wonderful life, and thanks for sharing your wonderful story.
All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07
