Really? How about the men whose wives left them? What choice did they make?
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we usually sacrificed career to raise kids
Also a very traditional assumption, and often not accurate. In my case, for example, we waited 10 years to have children so my wife could get trained and established in her career (at my expense). When she finally agreed to have kids, she still worked 30 hours a week and had a nanny, maid, etc. to do lots of the housework and child rearing.
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so it is fair
Hardly. Luckily there are some good attorneys and some reasonable judges who will try to make genuinely equitable decisions based on the totality of circumstances. But if one is in a bad state or gets a bad judge or lawyer, the outcome will be anything but fair.
"Now some kind of man, he can't do anything wrong. If I see him I'll tell him you're waiting." ---Lowell George
