I am sure that one day the sky is going to fall and your W is going to have her epiphany (mixed metaphors?).
I think it's going to take a long time for that to happen, the way things are going for you. It will happen though. It's possible that you will have moved on yourself by that time.
If there is any possible way that you can help yourself reach your goals sooner rather than later, then I can't help agreeing with most other posters' advice in your seven threads.......maybe you have to "pull back".
Let W stew in her own mess as it were. That will be very difficult for you, I'm sure.
I don't know, perhaps you will feel as if you are abandoning her....perhaps she'll see it as you not caring (who knows what WASs really think).....again, sooner, rather than later, I think you'll have to do this for your own sanity.
Me 44 W 39 M 10yrs (together 13 years) one D 8 ILYBINILWY Feb 2007 Separated - 5th September 07
Will get there in the end. Will get there in the end 2.