3. H was short w/ me on the phone today when I wanted to talk to him about D and taking her to the Dr. I know he was meeting w/ new company and it is important, but D is more important. I hate when H makes me feel like he is bothering me.
I'm not going to defend your H here, but personally I have a tough time 'task switching', especially when I am immersed in a particular situation. It's easy to get distracted and not be able to focus on the phone conversation.
It used to drive my W nuts when I'd tell her I'd have to call her back, or something. I make a point now of behaving completely differently, which I know my W appreciates. I might have to walk out of a meeting or go somewhere private, but she knows I'll deal with the problem there and then.
So, I'd probably give him the benefit of the doubt on this one and see how he responds to you and the Ds when he's back in town.
I get the part that he couldn't talk and I can get over that. It is that he was so short w/ me and made me feel as if I was a nuisance. What I can't forgive is that he never asked last night when he called how she was and if I took her to the doctor.
