Happy Birthday Sue: ) Take care of you today. Have a triple dip ice cream!
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Oh, you don't know how good you all made me feel!! Thanks for the birthday wishes. Yes, I did update my age on my signature!
Choc...the line starts here....my address is......
It's been a pretty good day so far. D3 is at my parent's house this week. She called me early this morning to say she loves me and wished me a Happy Birthday. She actually sang to me! So cute.
No, of course no word from H. Didn't and don't expect anything. I mean, really, what could he say?? Ah, Happy Birthday honey, sorry I'm making your 40th so sh*tty by being an ass & wanting a life with my new soul mate!!
My FIL called me a few minutes ago. He's so sweet. He said that he forgot until he looked at the calendar this morning. He always sends a card and calls on my birthday. He wanted to know why H hasn't called him. H usually calls at least once a week. H hasn't called since we visited. I didn't know that. Appears that since the A has started coming out, H is distancing himself from his family. FIL asked me if he was up to his same sh*t again and how things were with us. I said Papa (that's what we call him), I'll be honest. Things are not good. However, it's up to your son to talk to you about all that. H would be more than livid with me if I say any more.
I truly wanted to have a conversation with my FIL and let him know that his son needs help. I'm not sure if I should step that way or not.
I need to run. I need to get some things done and then a friend is taking me to lunch!!
Thanks again everyone!
just an addition....I saw these quotes online and found them interesting.
We detest in others defects which are much more glaring in us, and, with surprising impudence and thoughtlessness, express our surprise at them. ~Michel Montaigne
Imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. ~James Baldwin
The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and himself. ~Garth Brooks
Last edited by SueS; 02/07/0804:52 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Hope you have a nice day. Did you go out for lunch today?
I did respond very short & sweet. He then called me a while later with a computer question and asking if D3 had called me. I was short & polite, even happy. He sounded down.
I have to keep reminding myself.......this is my day. Don't let H get to you. I had my mind set that I wouldn't be hearing from H. The email caught me off guard. I hope I handled it okay.
Sue
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Im declaring every day your Bday if you'll keep reminding yourself that this is YOUR day, don't let H get you down. Cause it's true.. every day is your day to live to the fullest. Huggs!
I did go out with friends tonight. It was fun. I swore I wouldn't think or talk about H. I slipped and talked about him once. I got home and the first thing that popped up on the computer was a damn YOUTUBE song that he emailed to OW. True Companion by Marc Cohn. Great song. Just a sh*tty thing for me to have pop up when I get on.
H emailed a few times later today. He asked if I was going out and who I was going out with. Just when I step away, he comes running asking who/what/where. He doesn't want me anymore, but seems like he still wants control of me and what I do.
I miss D3 so much. I knew I'd miss her and she's been away before so I didn't think it would hurt this much when she went away this time.
Well, time to make a few phone calls and take a hot bath and relax.
Have a good night.
Sheila.......I'll do my best to remember that every day should be my day.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day