Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

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Hi, I haven't been posting much myself lately, a little down. I've read the six stages of MLC shortly after I came to the boards. I could see how W had been in some of the phases. I wonder if now she's starting into acceptance. She has started calling friends she hadn't for months, took the initiative and called S27 to visit him, his W and D. She also came with D24 tuesday to the house, stayed for about 2 hours. Was pleasant, I didn't bring up R. Asked her about new jewelery job at store. She's considering being the manager of the deli, current one is moving. Told her she would be good at it. I encouraged her and praised her work ethic.

People ask if I can forgive her A, they don't understand it's part of MLC. That it's a mental condition, I wouldn't turn my back on her if she became bi-polar or another mental issue. I look back and the incident that could have caused her to start was D19, then 16 met up with a 22yo weasel. He convinced her we were the enemy. She ran away from home to be with this idiot 4 times. I remember how it broke her heart that her "baby" ran away. D finally came home when the weasel got caught with her and violated a restraining order for the 4th time. This time it was a felony violation and since he skipped out on bail last time, he was held until trial.

Since then D19 has told me things he had done to her, if I'd have known then I'd probably be in jail. Although it's hard to believe a jury of my peers would fine me guilty because of what he had done to her. This is what I think set W on her MLC.

There's no time frame of when they will get through one stage and into the next. I know in replay I heard about everything I'd ever done that upset her, stuff from over 20 years ago. I just hope W gets through this before the D.

Mike