Just got back from another counseling session between S16 and EX. I don’t think we will be going again for awhile. S16 asked EX to leave about 10 minutes early,,, once she was gone he told the counselor that EX isn’t getting it and this is all a big waste of time. The counselor thought we might be making a little progress but very slowly. She agreed that it's time to take a break and we probably don’t need to come back for at least a month or two.
ALL
"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Yes you are Sweetie. You just keep telling yourself that!
I think it might be a good thing for all of you to step back for a while and think about what's been said. Of course it might do more for you and your son then the ex, depending on if she gets it or not!
I told the C that I am on a mission to cut EX completly out of my life,,,, the C thought that was a good idea.
At this point it is up to EX if she wants to have a relationship with S16, but it will only happen if she can treat him with some respect. She knows what she needs to do, time will tell if she really wants S16 in her life or not.
I did my part and now I'm washing my hands of it.
ALL
"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Sometimes the “real world” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
I find that suddenly I am once again struggling to keep it together. It seems like several things have hit close to home all at once. Sonya’s murder, all this counseling with S16 and EX has brought back a lot of bad memories, especially this time of year which is when all the trouble started 3 years ago. Stuff I thought I had come to terms with but now I wonder if I haven't somehow just buried these memories in some dark corner in the back of my mind. Maybe I've just gotten so good at "acting as if" that I've even managed to fool myself. Who knows? Only time will tell.
I know that I’m going to be ok, I’ve already been through severe depression once and there’s no way I’m going back there. I would like to thank all of you, my “imaginary” friends for your kind words and encouragement. Even though we may never meet I know that somewhere out there each of you is a real person that cares.
ALL
"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Cheer up, spring is almost here and our mood seems to have a way of turning around as well.
You've been dealt a lot of bad stuff lately. It's no wonder that you're questioning yourself. There is nothing wrong with you that a little time and space from the ex won't cure.
First things first. You need to deal with the grief over your friends murder. I'm sure that this is a big part of your mood. I told you that I went through the samething when a friend was murdered, and you have to reconcile yourself to the facts and accept it. It's hard at times and it may sound cold but life goes on and you have to move on with it.
As far as ex goes, you've had some pretty big doses of her lately as well. Wouldn't you say that this is the biggest amount of time that you've spent in the same room with her in quite a while? No wonder everything is so close to the surface. You've been subjected to the marriage according to ex and you've had to listen to all of the things that YOU did to cause the end of your marriage all over again. You had put this all behind you, don't let her takeaway your peace. All, you know that none of that is true. Distance from your ex had shown you that what really was. Don't get sucked back in and PLEASE don't re-hash everything in your head. Your ex has major problems but you didn't cause them.
