I know you are worried about him, and not without reason, but make sure you don't forget to take care of BA! It just struck me that he has made this all about him, and he is pulling you into his drama. I know you want to be there, and help to save him from himself, but I am starting to wonder if that is a good thing for either one of you. I am really thinking that you should try to detach from his drama, and let him deal with it. Maybe when he starts talking about his true love MOW, you could tel him you don't want to know, and walk away? I'm really bothered by the cuddling, too. I am torn there, I know you like it, and maybe it is helping to keep a connection, but it feels to me that he is just using you to fill in what is missing from his "dream" relationship. I don't know, I am thinking aloud here, but I am wondering if you 'availableness' is making it too easy for him to keep living in his fantasy world. The question I can't figure out the answer to is whether that is better than the alternative....I just don't know.
