Originally Posted By: Jeff223
Were we married to the same woman? I too knew her for 15 years (dated - I knew her even longer b/c we worked for the same program) and we were married 12 when we divorced. I too NEVER had a EA/PA or abuse. She never mentioned MC and would not go when I recommended it after the bomb. I do have to admit that we discussed some issues but those issues were not grounds for D by any stretch and could have been worked.

She just wanted out. She quit.

I often wondered how she could sit in church week after week. One of her classic responses: she prayed on it and God said it was okay.

Thanks again for this exchange. We need to get our minds around this if were are to heal.


Jeff223,

The WAW and I had the following exchanges:

RMG: What would your parents say if they were standing here?
WAW: I could CARE less! I am going to do what I WANT to do!

RMG's Note - Both were devout Bible believing Christians who passed away while we were married... Although he never had a church, her father was actually an ordained minister later in life....

RMG: What happened to your Christian beliefs?
WAW: God will just have to deal with me!

As for your wife saying:

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she prayed on it and God said it was okay.


Is she a Christian? Does she know what the Bible reads about divorce? Can I divorce my wife if I just feel like it?

Here is the tricky question. I would love to ask the WAWs flat out.... We are going to look into the future..... Fifteen years from now, you are remarried... You have been happily married for twelve years.... One day, your husband comes home and tells you it is over.... He files for divorce.... Would you be angry or upset? Would you feel he has a right to do it? According to WAW's rules, he can do whatever he wants and leave whenever he wants.... If the hot new secretary looks interesting.... He can blaze off.....

I challenged my wacky WAW to pick ANY Bible believing church - Assembly of God, Baptist, Evangelical Free or whatever and we we go talk to the pastor to see if he thought she had a right to walk away... She never had the balls... She KNEW she would not find anyone who would agree with her...

Take Care,

RMG

Last edited by RMG; 02/07/08 06:51 PM.
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