I heard something yesterday that made a lot of sense to me. Hopefully I can explain it well now.
It had to do with achieving through positive thinking (Faith), what you were wanting/needing and where you emotionally or mentally were at.
Basically the concept is that you won't be able to achieve that which you want to achieve if you "want" from a shallow position mentally/emotionally. That you'll only be able to achieve once your wants and needs are coming from a much deeper place mentally , emotionally and spiritually.
So if your wants are highly materialistic, highly needy, rooted in fear and such, those wants and needs are coming from a shallow position. A shallow position doesn't have a strong foundation. However if your wants and needs come from a much deeper rooted emotional, mental and spiritually stable place they will be met because of the depth that they originate and their solid foundation.
We all have experienced these very things. At first when we were left behind we begged, we pleaded for our spouses to return. In other words we were needy and that need came from a rather shallow emotional state that was rooted in fear.
We get out and learn divorcebusting, we get ourselves back right emotionally by focusing on the deep "us", we become more self aware. We get a life, we focus on the positives we have, etc. We now move from being needy at that shallow level to wanting from a deeper much more rooted and stable place.
My point is we always needs to be aware of where we are and where our wants and desires are rooted. Is our desire to restore our marriages rooted in the shallow levels or is it rooted in the solid foundations of a deeper place emotionally, mentally and spiritually?
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Well to be honest it struck me because basically I had moved back to a much shallower place and hadn't really acknowledge that I had. When I heard this the light bulb just turned on. It ties right into what I have been telling folks, Faith is the opposite of fear. If you allow fear to control, your thoughts, desires, feelings and actions then you aren't in control in a positive way. Faith is the positive way to be in control. Faith lets you let go of the things you can't control. Faith lets you focus on you and not on the fear based things.
Recently I announce I was done, it was over, yada, yada, yada. Well I think you know the place I was at, a fear based, wo is me, negative and defeated place. There were no positive thoughts only defeatism. You know what my attitude got me, exactly what I was projecting, failure. A change of attitude in the last week has meant a change in what I have been getting. Show love, compassion, kindness to others and what do you get, it returned in volume!
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
