Wow, just caught up. Sorry you're having to deal with all this! It's bad enough the hurt she's putting you through but to pull your sons into it like that.. makes me really sad.
I think any "convincing" or "making her understand" you attempt is probably going to continue to backfire.. but just a thought. Maybe you can set up a counseling session for yourself with the intent that it's to discuss parenting during a D. Then let her know that you are going and she's welcome to come if she'd like to? Maybe even do this via a polite, business-like email so that she doesn't have the chance to twist anything around on you. I know she probably won't go, but I'm thinking if you set it up that way where you're going either way and it's TOTALLY about the parenting aspect, NOTHING about an R between you two (even as friendly coparents), maybe there's a chance she'd go for it??
If you end up going by yourself maybe the C will have some good ideas for how to discuss all this with your S. If she shows up, I'm sure the C will make the point about a civil R between you being important, and it might be better received than the same message coming from you.
And in either case, I'm thinking it would help you chalk up some additional "good Dad" points for the courts..
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
