It sounds like she's reaching out to you in the ways that she feels she can. She's not ready for a full committed relationship, so this we're a family but with separate houses thing seems to work for her. Just keep giving her time. I think that she'll eventually come around. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow...
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008