I went to trial with my XH. I know what you are going through. I realize that it is hard to want your marriage to work and get a divorce at the same time.
That being said.
The best advice I got was from a friend. She said to me, "it is just a business deal." When I thought of the financial part of my D as a business deal, I was able to stay focused on the needs of my family and not the MLC tornado.
BTW..My XH said it all to me. I was a gold-digger..I would get nothing..he had no money and the best he could do was what he was offerring me. Well, I realized that wasn't true. The judge forced him to pay more and he has been paying it!
It is so hard to fight for financial support and not feel bad at the same time. But, once I depersonalized it AND remembered this was not what I wanted in the first place, it was easier to handle.
I almost settled when XH said to me he needed a D to rethink our R again. He needed the closure. Had I settled, I would not be in my home any longer, I would not have been able to finish school, etc.
300 a month is a lot of money. Think about it.
I would avoid talking money with him at the moment. You need time to think and get your head on straight.
Remember, it's a business deal.
Oh, btw..in the end my XH told me how much he respected the fact I fought for more money for the kids' sake. He said it was a statement to how independent and wiser I had become through it all. Almost a turn on to him... (whatever..he is sick dude.. )
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