Thanks, everyone. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to offer their support and advice. You guys are so great.
Unfortunately, I didn't have a chance to read your responses (I have been out of town on business) before talking to my W this morning via mobile phone. We again had a bad R talk. I should know better -- she won't listen and forms her own opinions about me without bothering to ask me.
Still, I wish there was some way, some how, she would understand that she and I really need to work together for the sake of our sons. The M aside, she needs to realize that what's best for our S's is that their parents work together, with no belligerence, whether we are married or not.
I wrote a response but did not send it -- I was giving it the 48 hour rule, but it is likely a moot point now.
I want to convince her she and I need to seek some form of counseling, to work to repair our strained relationship, for no other reason than making peace for our children's sake.
But I guess W fears that any success, however small or sleight, in mending this train wreck will only be evidence that we could do the same for our M as well -- and she is dead-set against that. No room for compromise in her book.
I know that MIL is an agitator, of that I have no doubt. But it really rests with W.
This scorched earth policy is going to be very damaging to my S's. Why can't she see that?
