I have to agree with the others here. I am in the same boat as you right now. My H was really nice to me for a month and just this week he brought up the money thing. And because I would not agree to less money now he is not talking to me and he is back to mean. I went through this also with him wanting me to sign a piece of paper saying I will never move. And then he got over it. He is only nice to me when he wants something from me that he knows he will lose out on in court.
I feel as if you have to do what your heart tells you to do. He is using the threats and niceness to get what he wants because that is what it is about right now for him. My H has pulled out all the tricks in the book. Even down to saying that because I will not agree to do it his way I never loved him.
These are all ways they try to bully to get what they want.
B2M
Bomb 3/31/2007 Moved out 04/22/2007 Moved back in 06/11/2007 Wants to stay and try 09/04/2007