Someone just told me that my xh is ALWAYS nice to me when HE wants something. They were right. I'm always nice anyways I've experienced this firsthand. I've heard the "Your only out to get me" and let's see "gold digger" "You raped me" blah blah blah......

But yet I am still here, so if that was the case then I would no longer be on these boards right?

Do as your husband is doing. Put your emotions to the side. Explain it to him just the same way he explained to you. Tell him this has nothing to do with the restoration of your marriage or the relationship you hope to have with him in the future. This is strictly business.

By settleing it will show him that he can still take you out to dinner, make you smile, give you hope and get what he wants. NOW hold on before you think I am being mean, if you can make do with the lesser amount of money then fine, sobeit. If not, say no, if you could say.....be ok with 150.00 Great! Think of how much this is going to save him in trial fees. remember Kiki, this is not what you want. Don't let him force or guilt you into making a decision based upon what he says is in the future for the both of you. It will be what it will be either way.

Yeah, I heard the building of the bridge too. I think a few planks have been put down and it's a start but I'm not sure Iif we are building abridge to china or across the street

Hugs sweetie...and remember, we are only giving support, not telling you what to do. The final decision rests upon what you can do with or without. Not guilt. Financial wellbeing of your children.

Jeanette

Change the Policy.
Allow PM's
Free all of us.

Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!

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