(1) So, what, did H take too long picking up eggs and you were suspicious? If so, don't dismiss your intuitions too easily. You know as well as anyone that if you think an EA or PA is going on, it almost certainly is.
(2) Withholding being a good spouse is just like withholding sex. You are going to wind up with a lousy marriage, no matter how justified your resentment leading to the withholding behavior.
(3) Your H needs to grow up and feel/act like a good, strong, responsible, effective man. There is no way my XH could have done that with me. I made sure I fixed everything, averted all catastrophies, kept things working day to day, and so on. There was no space for him to be of significant importance in making sure our lives went well. I doubt I could have made space either. For it would have required me to function at too low a level. I take it XH has found that space with his new wife who is great in many ways, but certainly functions at a lower level in terms of some life skills. Why can't your H grow up and feel/act like a good, strong, responsible, effective man in your life?
