Bravo Cat, It's hard to let people do things there way, when you can see the problems with it, know there is a better way that would make them happier, the job easier, and get it done better. But it's an important lesson.
My guess is your kids will be OK (not that it will be easy for them) because you'll be OK and setting an example.It always bothered me that the MC never wanted to talk about the kids. I'll talk about them with you if you want.
As I said, I bet they'll be fine. If they follow my kids example, they'll act as if nothing at all is wrong. Sometimes I was tempted to sit them down and ask point blank what they thought of the whole situation, but I didn't. I did make it clear every now and then that they could ask or tell me anything and that I was there for them. I also tried hard to Not ask things like "what did mom say, or what was mom doing when you saw her". I tried to leave them there privacy and avoid anything that would make them feel like they were in the middle.
I think my daughter may have talked to her friends and gotten some support there. I think my son kept it all inside, although if her were asked a direct question he would answer it.
If your kids don't act out, grades don't slip, I would recommend leaving them be and not pressing on getting them to talk or open up. That's my 2 cents worth. With inflation, only worth .075 cents today.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
