It has been about 2 weeks since WAW has mentioned, with her head turned to the side, when am I am going to sign her D papers. In my state, she cannot get a no-fault/irreconcilable differences D. Since she has no grounds for fault, she is stuck.
Having said that, she will bring it up again one day. And I need a response. I have three options.
1) To validate her and to say that I am not done but still working on it. I do not want this D and so working on our doom is counter-intuitive. Also, the main thing we will dispute is 5D. Otherwise, nothing else to quibble over.
2) To prepare my thoughts or send e-mail in a period of time, stating that I understand her feelings, I've researched it, the legal aspects, religious aspects, and basically say I take my vows very serioiusly and cannot work toward something I do not agree with. Maybe I was a bad husband for a long time but I do not believe we have any problems that are insurmountable. Thank her for opening my eyes, etc...After this exchange, I would then go dark again. The difference would be that any positive communication thereafter can be really thought of as a true positive toward reconciliation as opposed to me just hoping like I do now.
3) Continue to stay dark hope to avoid the topic. This just seems a bit unreasonable and passive.
I like option 1 for it's simplicity but it is passive and drags things. I like option 2 because it allows me to be strong and tell my WAW the way I feel. Problem with option 2 is that I still believe everything is about her feelings and so it is probably unreasonable to think that my commitment and beliefs about D would effect her.
Other thoughts, I woke this morning with an inner peace that everything was going to be alright. And I also know, that I have all the time in the world. I just need to have a thought for the next time she brings it up.
