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Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread! Essie #1350073 02/07/08 02:48 PM
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 5,270 A AliSuddenly Member
AliSuddenly Member A Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 5,270	Hi T, I can relate to what you're saying about having harsh realisations and looking back at past Rs and seeing how my patterns of behaviour didnt help the R I was in...but for me, it was clouded by the fact that those Rs were so dysfunctional anyway, I felt like a paragon of virtue compared to the BF! My current one thuogh, I just feel embarressed, like you, as I too (Surprise surprise!) was a bit controlling..in that, I was always so forward looking and idealistic and strong and go getting and making us do x, y or z, that basically I guess I wasnt able to hear his opnions and didnt place enough value on his decisions. I would shout them down with a "C'mon! It will be fine!", instead of listening to his doubts. So, yep, I'm with you on that one. And yes we are all learning. But its so hard! Why couldnt we have learnt this stuff BEFORE they left?? Why do lessons in life have to be this hard/painful!? Its annoying. I think its brilliant that you are getting to more of the heart of things in your C though, thats real progress. New thread is alive and kicking, which is more than I can say for myself. Ali x -------------------- Me: 36 H: 34 LT: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 3 months on Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread

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Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 02:36 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 02:40 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 02:45 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 02:47 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 02:48 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/05/08 03:22 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/06/08 04:29 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/06/08 04:35 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/06/08 12:25 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	ba065	02/06/08 04:28 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/07/08 01:49 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Beth 83	02/08/08 01:27 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/08/08 11:05 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	02/10/08 09:13 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/10/08 05:50 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/10/08 06:56 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/10/08 07:12 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	yellowrose	02/10/08 10:23 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/10/08 11:49 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/12/08 02:20 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	02/12/08 07:51 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Essie	02/12/08 11:17 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	02/12/08 02:14 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	ba065	02/14/08 10:39 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:41 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:39 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:19 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:35 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:35 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:36 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/17/08 04:43 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	ba065	02/17/08 05:44 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	02/18/08 11:36 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	02/18/08 01:44 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/18/08 08:28 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/19/08 12:05 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 02:05 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 02:11 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Beth 83	02/19/08 11:21 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/21/08 04:27 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	02/21/08 05:25 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/21/08 09:18 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/22/08 02:34 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/22/08 07:06 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/23/08 06:14 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/23/08 06:14 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/23/08 06:28 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/23/08 06:45 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	02/24/08 03:55 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/25/08 05:53 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/25/08 09:09 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Virtually_Handsome	02/25/08 10:33 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	02/24/08 07:38 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	02/24/08 09:27 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Beth 83	02/25/08 10:46 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/26/08 02:50 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/26/08 02:51 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/26/08 02:54 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Virtually_Handsome	02/26/08 05:05 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Beth 83	02/27/08 02:54 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	02/28/08 02:52 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 03:07 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	03/01/08 03:15 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 03:20 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 03:30 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Virtually_Handsome	03/01/08 05:56 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 06:01 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 06:07 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	03/01/08 06:50 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	03/02/08 01:00 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	03/03/08 12:46 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/03/08 03:04 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	03/03/08 02:52 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	bhopeful	03/03/08 06:10 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	03/03/08 07:36 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	ba065	03/03/08 09:43 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/04/08 04:02 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/04/08 04:12 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Virtually_Handsome	03/04/08 05:29 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Essie	03/04/08 08:16 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	03/04/08 10:16 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/05/08 04:08 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/05/08 04:30 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Beth 83	03/08/08 02:18 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Kalni	03/08/08 06:38 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	One Day	03/05/08 10:12 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	03/06/08 05:57 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	W2G	03/06/08 11:22 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/05/08 04:33 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/05/08 04:34 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Virtually_Handsome	03/05/08 05:12 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/04/08 03:57 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/04/08 03:56 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/03/08 02:59 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/03/08 02:54 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	03/01/08 03:16 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 01:59 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 01:57 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 01:56 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/19/08 01:53 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/07/08 01:57 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	Essie	02/07/08 08:34 AM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	AliSuddenly	02/07/08 02:48 PM
Re: Growing in the Dark--Transformer's 2nd thread!	transformer	02/10/08 07:03 PM

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