I know you probably will all say that I shouldnt have even had the convo with him, but at least I know what is going on in his little head now.
What I see however is that he wants OW....until he starts missing me, then he wants me...until he starts missing her....never ending as I see it....he will have to be alone for quite a while and seek some much needed help....I will not put my kids or myself through this stupidity again
No, you shouldn't have had that conversation with him. Just as you should not have had many many many of those same kind of conversations with him. But you keep doing it, so I guess you must like them???? And what exactly did you learn about what's going on inside his tiny head?? Whatever it is you think you've learned, I highly doubt it's what you think.
What I see is he is much like you. He likes the drama. He loves the attention. He feeds on it, he feeds on those conversations ya'll have. Your right about one thing, it will NEVER END until you end it and start DB'ing in a way it was meant to be.
I truly can say I don't know how you do it. To me, a simple conversation with Rich leaves me drained.......much less having those kind of conversations over and over again. I'd be a zombie. When are you going to go dark? When are you going to drop the rope? When are you going to try and restore your marriage? When are you going to let your H do whatever the hell it is he wants to do without you being there and tormented along the way? You are your own worst enemy Kissak....and God knows I hate to read what you go through, but YOU ALLOW IT. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why....
Hugs honey.....I do want the best for you.
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
