a new 2mrw, don,t wish to put a negative spin on this but "moving in with ow is just the best thing to shake the shine off the r." Had I listened to this 7years on the shine still seems to be there they are married and I would have been living on the poverty line had I not just got that peice of paper! Sorry but sometimes we need that bit of paper for financial reasons and for me at least after 3 years of just waiting and standing it helped me let go. We are all in very different circumstances and laws vary in different places. It is sometimes easy to trot out cliche's like ow is just a bandaid,affairs only last 6 mths. This is just my opinion and we all must make our own but for me that peice of paper was what I needed for me to move on. Am I still standing? well I have no one else in my life,had a couple of dates but wasn,t for me. My h is remarried these past 3 years and we have no contact, so I guess I am not because he would have o leave his 2nd wife and it all gets too complicated for me. Cagzmom, you will do what is right for you when it's right for you. Blessings to you.
