Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[Nature Girl]

And she said: "You go to sleep at different times. You don't kiss each other anymore. You don't go away together anymore. You act like friends who live together."

lmg, until your D said this, did you think she had any clue that something was amiss?

my bomb was 3/07 and my H is still in the house, but we act like your D describes above (well, except that pre-bomb we went to sleep at separate times and now I go to bed when H does). My kids have never brought anything up, but how could they not notice that mom and dad don't kiss anymore, don't hold hands anymore, don't sit next to each other on the couch anymore, etc.

I'm afraid that my kids are going to think that this is how a marriage is supposed to be. I console myself by thinking that this will not go on forever and at some point they will either see mom and dad acting like they are lovingly married, or they will see us separate and realize that is not supposed to be how a marriage is. Obviously I am hoping for the first.

I'm glad to read that your H wants to re-invest - that is great!