I agree, there are different languages of communication. It has also been an area that my W and I need work on. Right now she is doing her best to try to shut me out of her life a much as she can. I have to admit some of it is even silly, but it is how she sees things now.
An example is that she no long will park in our driveway, she parks on the street so as to validate that she isn't living here any more I suppose. I just feel bad for her and the hurt she must be going through right now. I know that she needs to figure this out on her own and in her own time, but I know that somewhere deep in her heart she still has feelings for me and the family otherwise this wouldn't be so tough on her.
How are you doing today? I took the day off to get some things done around the house and to do some things for me that I have been putting off. I got the book "The 5 languages of love" yesterday and I also got the book "Hope for the Separated" by the same author. I am reading the second one first as I can use all the support I can get for my sitch.
I have to tell you that I have been DBing my butt off of late. I am not pursuing, our conversations are short and to the point, yet we have had some good time together while watching our kids play roller hockey. I do love this woman. I am willing to give her the space and time she wants, but I will also be here when is is ready to come back. This is not a disposable M. I believe in it and you are very right when you say that our spouses are damn lucky to have us in their lives fighting for our families and what is right.
You are doing amazing things...keep it up the pay off will be well worth it!
-B
Me-45 W-34 T-5 M-3 1/2 s-10 s-12 ILYBNILWY 12/26/07 Sleeping away from home at friend's house(because she says she can't get any sleep otherwise) 1/14/08 1/25/08 We tell kids she is moving out
