in the beginning of this thread you talked about your realization - "Wow, hadn't realize how far back I'd push my own needs ". i has been w/h just 4 weeks (oh-off) before he went on the business trip but that was also my biggest realization - how easy it was to get back to what i used to do - pushing back my own needs.
h came back partially for his own reasons but also because i was different - i was able to stand up for myself, on my own. you asked me on my thread what is my goal - i want to hold myself strong when i am with him. he likes it and respects it but he fights it, fights tooth and nail any change in our relationship - and it's not an open fight or even conscience sometimes - and its makes it harder.
my heart goes to you because your kids are so young. i admire the way you are going through this. sending you strengths and love)
me, h - 40+ m-20+ s, d, ss - 20+ s, ow, pa since 04.2007 h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008 h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1
