Tipper, hi. I was reading the last several postings and my heart went out to you with what you are dealing with. He appears to be hurting. Maybe he cannot relate to you so he reaches out to another person that he feels is in a similar messed up state as he is in.
As he heals, which is probably going to be the case since he is trying to find himself, he may realize he is worthy of you. In his mind, he isn't or that is at least how I read it in his conversations with you. And don't feel guilty about his feelings. Those belong to him and it is up to him to learn to deal with it.
You can do this.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God