What the he!! is happening now?

[bright 2 morro]

Hi All,
It has been a while since I have been on the boards. Long story short, my H left in April of last year came home in June and left in October. While he was gone the first time he was mean and nasty to me. While he was home he was fairly decent. Then when he left again he bacame very mean and nasty until right after christmas. For the last month it has been great. While he was not at home we were actually working together for the kids and getting along. We had conversations and he would appologize for the things he would do wrong that he knew would hurt me.

On Monday night he came out to dinner with me and the kids. We had a great time we laughed and joked and talked. After dinner I called him about a situation with the daycare and the kids. He was so great on the call. He started saying things like it is time that we crack down on these kids and get them to behave like the should. I did not even have to ask him he just jumped in and offered all that help. I in turn thanked him for his support and help. Right after that he asked me about child support (he knows that this is not a good subject). I told him that I did not want to discuss it. He pushed me and pushed me and i finally said that I had not thought of any other amount other than the standard. From that point on he has been a completely different person.

He is blaming me for trying to get revenge on him because I will not settle for less money. He is blaming me for getting revenge on him if I do not get my way. He said he was compromising because if he had it his way he would have the kids and not pay me any money. And that I am not even willing to budge. Well, I have already told him that I do not need to have Allimony. He would not accept that as a compromise (I did not even bring this up this week). In my opinion he is the one being irrational because I will not do everything his way. The minute I do not agree to do things his way he threatens lawyers and legal battles and meanness.

Now he won't even talk to me. He came to pick up the kids and I told him to have a good day and he pretty much turned his head at me.

For those of you who have gone through this and are back in the marriage, have you experienced this? Is this something that I should just let it play through. Why the sudden change in attitude?

I want to hold out for my marriage but I am actually getting to the point where I want to move on with someone else. I am in a tough spot in making a decision. I will tell you that there are two reasons why I am holding on.

1. because I know that I love this man (ok the non alien guy), I know what he is capable of and I know he was never like this.

2. I would be willing to put all of this behind us for the kids. They want nothing more than to have their Dad back in the family. My D9 is having a lot of problems with this and it is getting worse not better. She actually asked me yesterday. Why would he do this to his kids if he knows how painful it is because he went through it? His parents were divorced. And then she said why would he want to hurt his kids.


Any insite would be greatly appreciated. Is there still hope and what is this weird turn. My suspicions are that he was getting to close again and enjoying it so he pulled back hard. But I am not sure.

B2M