Confessions of a Supermom - JennyF's 4th thread

[JennyF]

hopetoworkitout,
Yes, I do think he is doing it just to keep showing me that it is over. Because I do believe is still knows I don't really believe it. Funny this is...that I do. I am completely, 100% sure that he believes it is over. I don't even think he's confused any more (at least no where conciously...)
But what I know that he doesn't know...is that he is in the middle of a life crisis! And there IS the potential for him to change his mind if he continues to follow the path as he has been.
So I did exactly as you said...I just said "I guess you just call them" and shrugged. That's it. And he dropped it.
My face had a furrowed brow when I said it...a scowl really, but then I let it go.

He could have given you your key back or not (what the hell was keeping it going to do. For GOD sake take it off the ring if it is bothering you so damn much) and changed the lock on his truck. Yes, an expense, but it would have meant he did not have to deal with you or your feelings. He did not have to consult you about the bills. He probably could have taken his name off without you even knowing or at the very least found out the process without asking you. I am sorry to rant JF, but this so sounds like my H. The difference is I am not as strong as you, I cave and we end up going back and forth.

OK hope2workitout....you were on a roll! It really wasn't that a big a deal...he wasn't an a$$#@le about it or anything. I have been expecting it actually. I certainly would not have wanted him to change the locks when he can simply ask for it like he did.
BUT, I gotta say this...you're looking for negative things that aren't there. And if you've just done it in my sitch...I'm wondering if you're doing it in your own too. Yes we have reasons to be mad at them....and hurt and devestated and depressed and lonely and blahblahblah. By I don't have to be this way with every single little thing he does. My God if I do that I'll go nuts!
Also...H is not responsible for how I feel. I AM. I have to stop letting him determine how I feel. Again....Yes we have reasons to be mad at them....and hurt and devestated and depressed and lonely and blahblahblah.
But if I let it consume me...I won't be moving forward. And I can't stand still!
J~