JF-- I just wanted to add that you have this DB thing so right. Unless you are doing more backsliding than you say, I honestly believe that things will work out with you and H. I see so much of my H in yours. I can't see the light in my own sitch, but I so see it in yours. I really feel like if you keep going at the pace that you are going you will be back with H in time. He needs lots of space, but it looks like he is trying to do more growing up and maturing than anything.
