JF-- You have been so good at this entire DB thing do you think that him taking his name off the bills is just an effort to see where your head is at? I am curious. You are doing great and i am really thinking that him asking to take his name off the bills is an effort to see if you have really changed and if you are in fact letting go or just pretending. I mean honestly, taking his name off the household bills means nothing. It won't change the bills or his responsibility. If he really wanted and needed to know why ask you? Wouldn't that question be better answered by the bill companies? Don't fall into the trap like I did. Just refer him to the 800 number on the bills and tell him to let you know what he finds. Say something like " yeah, I was kind of wondering that myself. Let me know what you find out." I don't quite get the keys thing. Again, as my BIL says if they really and truly want it to be over and they are sure, there is no need for the games. He did not even have to deal with you on the key. He could have given you your key back or not (what the hell was keeping it going to do. For GOD sake take it off the ring if it is bothering you so damn much) and changed the lock on his truck. Yes, an expense, but it would have meant he did not have to deal with you or your feelings. He did not have to consult you about the bills. He probably could have taken his name off without you even knowing or at the very least found out the process without asking you. I am sorry to rant JF, but this so sounds like my H. The difference is I am not as strong as you, I cave and we end up going back and forth. The thing is I know he cares because he goes back and forth. With your H you don't give him the satisfaction. Keep on DBing don't let him phase you and please believe that he still cares. He is rushing, but I don't think it is for the reasons you think.
