HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

A close friend of mine called me today. She has known both me and H since high school, she's a single mom and a good friend of ours. After H left, she came by a few times and I had a good cry.

H called her a few days ago. He told her his side of the story, and being a good friend, she didn't tell him that she & I had talked, and she didn't judge him. She said that in his negative side of things, he doesn't mention OW, or that he's cheated before or how he left. He doesn't mention that he left in one day, or that I caught him lying to me. He twists everything to make me look crazy.
And after talking for an hour or so, she said he started making her very uncomfortable. He was telling her how he always liked her, how she's so pretty and how he's single now and they should get together sometime. She said that she was uncomfortable that he was talking to her like that, so she ended the conversation, but he called back the next day. She changed her cell phone number, and gave me explicit instructions NOT to let him have her new number. SHe said it was one thing for him to disrespect himself so much, even worse to so blatantly disrespect me and our marriage, but SHE wasn't involved in this and she wasn't going to let him disrespect her because he felt it was okay.

The person he is now, is not someone I respect or want in my life. My friend kept apologizing, and saying she was sorry and didn't want to tell me, but she felt I should know. He has been so selfish lately, that it didn't even surprise me. He's making it easy for me NOT to want him. I haven't talked with him since he dropped off D3 late on Monday, and I haven't felt the urge to. For the first time, I feel absolutely ready to go dark, to drop the rope. It doesn't feel forced. Right now, he is not someone who deserves to have me in his life as long as he acts like this.