lwb - Sorry your H is being such a jerk and saying those hurtful things. Just so you know, it's from the "book". I was accused of being in denial and it has always been implied what a crappy wife I was. Your H doesn't mean those things. He's just trying to make excuses for himself. More justification for his bad behavior.
Hope - Too bad your H will have to live for the rest of his life with this hanging over his head. My H just said the other day that he "hopes he's not making the biggest mistake of his life.." DUH!
