I have left open numerous doors for my W to approach and talk.
Perhaps you can just keep an open heart. And maybe it is. Just tossing it out there. (Again...in no way do I think you are at fault, just offering an option...'up for the challenge' so to speak'.....she may come along when you are soooooooo done)
I DO do what DB says. I leave her alone. I talk with her cordially and as necessary. If she talks to me about a show on TV, I respond. I laugh if something is funny. I do my thing. I don't chase her. I don't ask where she is going. No R anything now.
This is NOT what DB says. And this is my point (not arguing with you...but 'up for the challenge' again)
The point is 'DO WHAT WORKS'.
Brainstorm. If you're up for the challenge.
BEGIN WITH THE MIND OF THE BEGINNER. (I'll dedicate to you to work through it...if you're up for it. If you are soooooo worn down and done...so be it.)
My W knows that I love/loved her. She knows that this is not my preference..heck...I've said this over and over and over. I've slowly let her know over time...even BEFORE filing...that without some help/work/IC/MC....this marriage was broken and dead.
I can't make my wife love me. I can't flip on any of her internal 'ON' switches.... To sgctxok...thanks for your support.
My gut instinct says you don't want to do this. And that is my point. It IS so important to take care of yourself. And I want you to.
But if there is a chance.....and you want to try...I would like to help you make sure you did everything.
Being up front----I have more concerns about other posters comments than with what you may or have decided.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
