B, MMB, I think half the battle is won by you working on yourselves and deciding to DB for your M. It really can take time. Imagine this - if out spouse was to come home too soon, they may not be ready due to the fact that they haven't experieneced their loss and pain. Believe that they do feel guilt, pain and loss, despite them being the ones who decided to leave. Also imagine that it would be much harder for the M to work out, if we are NOT ready for our spouse to be home again. The chance of failure would also be higher then.
