I am sorry that he is blind to your efforts. I know that if my W was doing that sort of thing in the hopes that I'd be more attentive she'd have trouble fighting me off. Unfortunately she doesn't want me to touch her these days. Ugh!
I have finally started to get some sleep at night as I am leaving my wife's behavior and her heart to God. It is now in his hands...and it always was. I just spend the time working on me, taking care of the kids and hoping that she doesn't stay away forever.
I am in a much better place and have been detaching, DBing and letting God do his thing. Amazingly enough the little things are bothering me as much now. I still have my down days, but I am so much stronger now and I think I am on the road to showing my W that I am a good man and one she should stay married to.
I know that it has been a struggle for you, but you are doing great. Don't let up. Keep up the DBing and let God work on his heart. I know that we are being tested. By being the one who is willing to stand for the marriage you and I are well on our way to passing this test and helping make our families stronger and more connected.
-B
Me-45 W-34 T-5 M-3 1/2 s-10 s-12 ILYBNILWY 12/26/07 Sleeping away from home at friend's house(because she says she can't get any sleep otherwise) 1/14/08 1/25/08 We tell kids she is moving out
