You are still doing great. Just keep telling yourself that when you get things to move in a positive direction the best thing you could do is to back off and wait for more movement instead of jumping in and trying to push things further.
The key is that you want HIM to come to YOU. So as DR says, don't react to what H does. Just tell him neutral things like, I am glad you mentioned that. Or, I will have to give that some thought and get back to you on that. Look for other neutral things you might be able to use. Make up phrases that will not be filled with emotion and give you a chance to think about what you really want to say before you jump to your guns.
I would suggest that you let him make the moves for a while and see where he leads you. Do nothing. If anything happens or changes it will be because he initiated it. Take the time to pay attention to your kids, take care of you and GAL. You can do this, you ARE doing this. Keep up the GREAT work.
-B
Me-45 W-34 T-5 M-3 1/2 s-10 s-12 ILYBNILWY 12/26/07 Sleeping away from home at friend's house(because she says she can't get any sleep otherwise) 1/14/08 1/25/08 We tell kids she is moving out
