Hey one thought.. maybe time to change your user ID? (since I assume "m" is her?). What about.. KinlovewithK?? Or KinlovewithL (L=Life.. I know you're not there right now, but it's fake it til ya make it time)?
Thought stopping is a great tool! Different things work for different people so find what works for you. Good advice on the calls, texts, snooping, too.
I was a little unsure why the shrink said don't call her back if she calls you first. Is he (or she?) thinking that this is an unhealthy R to pursue at all, even if she comes around and wants to work on things? (this may well be true, I was just curious on that part).
Yes, it's kind of freeing to think about your life in a new context - where to live, what to do, what you want to accomplish. Glad to see you looking at those things.
This is all hard work though, no doubt about it. I have quite a ways to go on a lot of those things myself.
Numb and neutral are good for now... but don't miss those opportunities for happy here and there! Sometimes those moments sneak up on ya but you talk yourself out of it in a way, because you're "supposed" to feel sad or neutral or whatever. So if you feel a little "happy" creeping in - embrace it and enjoy it!!
If you don't mind sharing - what part of the country do you live in?? I was thinking maybe we could brainstorm some "alleviate the boredom" ideas of your own..
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
