Recognized a pattern, don't know if I like it.

[bombardier50]

She has said a couple of times over past year she feels she needs to be alone, unattached to anyone to "heal".

Awhile back, I was cruising around on pathpartners.com. I checked out their boards and saw that they had a board for "Woman in Midlife Only" and one for the men dealing with MLC wives. Of course, the men's board was just a cesspool of pain and heartache...couldn't stay there long. So I "spyed" on the women's board.

What an eye opener.

There were comments like "If he would just give me my space, I wouldn't have had to move out", and so on. As expected, their concerns were all very selfish, and there was a lot of guilt about the pain they had caused, but they felt as though there was nothing they could do about it in a very detached sort of way. "I know he's in a lot of pain, but I have to deal with this." It was a weird, weird world. Some of these women were in the midst of affairs. They felt guilty about the pain they were causing, but they felt as though this was a necessary step in their warped little "journey". Anyway, you might take a gander at the board.

Was it just an excuse to call as she doesn't need this info to simply pay the mortgage?

Who the hell knows? I saw someone mention Occum's Razor on another post. The simplest explanation is usually correct.

Maybe I'll swing by her place and kiss her on the mouth, her reaction will answer both questions.

Of course, you're kidding. My guess is she'd smack you with a baseball bat.

Question: Has she shown you any physical attention at all? Touch on the arm, etc.? I don't know if you saw my post about my MC session yesterday. My W is gradually showing me more physical attention. It's like the ice is slowly melting.

Also, if you saw my earlier thread, a couple of weeks ago I gave her a little pat on the azz. She was outraged. In fact, my puzzlement over this was the whole subject of the thread.

Anyway, in MC yesterday, she mentioned this and how she was shocked at her own reaction. I thought this was a bit of a breakthrough. What do you think?

Bomb