Having a hard time

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Perhaps someone has some stress relievers I could try?

Don't know if I mentioned that my boss and another higher boss quit at my job because of new management issues, so in addition to home life sucking this job is sucking the life out of me. It is all I can do not to cry 24/7! It used to be at least that I could rely on work being the same (been here 23 yrs), but now I have to deal with people who are far from supportive here as well, let alone have any idea what they are doing. So it is making my life miserable. So I asked my group but they didn't have any ideas. What do you do when you have no outlet, both home and work are terrible and stressful?

Part of the problem for me is that I have a flexible schedule here which with the situation and my kids I really need. And I get 5 weeks vacation since I am here so long, that I would never get at a new job. I feel like my hands are tied everywhere I go. And I have the "better" job of the two of us. Benefits and salary wise. Sometimes I wish I was taken care of. Sigh.

[cat03]

most days my kids are in bed by 9:30 - 10pm. My son knows that it is mommy time (still, pretty much every time he'll come out of his room after being tucked in to talk about anything (toys,tv,school friends,etc). But still, he knows he has to be quick about it and go to bed, so that's when I decompress. I've let some things go (go a bit far in between cleaning) and just sit while watching the news/a movie and relax.

We just have to work w/what we have, take advantage of sleep overs and having the kids over at H's. Pick up an old hobby, go to the gym, something just for you.

[brandnewday]

HSS
I took up kickboxing to help relieve the stress.
maybe there is something close by that you could do.

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God give me strength to survive another day....

[Kimmie Lee]

Amen to that sweetheart.

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I barely had enough strength to survive today...Now my new boss is questioning my hours. Hours that I genuinely need now that I am a single parent. As if home life wasn't bad enough I am barely making it through work. Co-workers and I are ready to quit - but my flexible schedule and vac time are what keep me there, especially now. No new employer would be so generous. I could get my pay anywhere. And I still carry the family benefits. I feel like every part of my life has fallen apart. Don't know how I am not in a rubber room in a straight jacket. I apparently really pissed someone upstairs off to be getting all these tests in life.

[ACJ]

HSS

Take a big deep breath. You didn't p**s anyone off. It's just that when you are down you notice every little thing that is making you feel this way.

Look at it from your new boss's POV. Firstly they are new so they have to get a background knowledge on everything and everyone that they will be concerned with. Why don't you use this as an opportunity to forge good communications with them. Rather than worry about this and make yourself ill ask to speak to them and explain how very important it is right now for you to retain those hours. Think very carefully what you will say in that meeting as you don't want to come across as looking for favours or that you are not up to the job. If it helps write it down before you go in so that you do not miss out anything important. Do you have a member of staff or a union representative who could go in with you? You might want to reserve the latter for future use just in case.

I recently had a meltdown at work and it's over 2yrs since my H left. I quite literally stood up and walked out over something really silly. It was just the straw that broke the camels back. Initially they were really hard on me until I pointed out that in the entire two years I had only taken 3 days off because of my personal situation. We have been going through a merger and my managers have not handled it very well at all. So like you with everything else going on I really struggled. However I managed to talk to my immediate boss in such a way that she withdrew her harshness and actually became empathetic. Based on what I said that day she has looked at the way the merger has been handled again and is now being far more considerate to me. I also know that if i have a problem I can take it to her w/o fear of retribution.

Keep on taking those deep breaths. Things will get easier. I won't lie to you there will also be further times when you think they are getting harder again but the quicker you can learn to detach the easier those time will be to overcome.

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Got Friday off for snow. Would've called out anyway, had a migraine and wasn't driving in that snowy mess for 3 hrs work. Would've taken 1 1/2 hrs just to get in!

Had another therapy session today. She was good in helping me make chore charts for the kids. Weekly, daily, etc. Go back in 2 weeks to see how its going. Wish me luck! Trying to have patience.

[cat03]

sending patience yourway))))))))))))))))))

[HSSweetheart]

Thanks!!!!

Work is slightly easing up - or I'm getting used to stress, not sure which! Took Friday off this week to destress.

Keep referring my Wed night group to this website, wonder how many have checked it out.

H has done two repairs around the house this week, I was thrilled! Bought a new shower curtain, hoping to get that up this week. S11 offered to hang it but I don't think he can. Perhaps he is my new handy man in training!

I just got my tax bill for my house. If he is entitled to half of the value of the house how come he doesn't have to pay half of the tax bill? Boy is life not fair. They told me in group once I get that in my head that life isn't fair I won't feel so bad. Wish I could!