She started talking R tonight. I tried to vindicate everything she said. I told her I understand her points about why she is unhappy, I understand her feelings about needing to separate etc...
She said that she gets stressed because she can see I have hope. I told her I can deny that. She doesnt like it if I say things like "if we need to separate...." instead of "when we separate...." Thing is, I know her, and if we do end up having a separation, then it will be no going back for her. I have a matter of 2 or 3 months max to do this. Not quite back to square one because I have my head in the right place now, but it is a blow. She said she thinks we need to separate as soon as possible.
The only way I can see now is to completly stay out of her way. Last resort technique and all that. She said she has never loved me as much as I have loved her, I told her that in any relationship it wont be even. She is so pigheaded that she wont listen to reason. She has been hurt in relationships before and she has gone into self preservation mode now. Walls up, laser canons on top!!! I know what you will all say, but please say it anyway, I need to hear it. She is alway tired, especially being pregnant (mood swings!!!) and we cant talk when she is tired. I just need to wait for an opening. To be honest I had set myself a 2 week goal of being R talk free, and it hasnt worked. I have not brought it up, but even when she brings it up.... problems (not 100% of the time). What should I do... try to steer the conversation away? Leave the room?
Crap crap crap crap crap
Goodnight all hope its going better for you.
Steve
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
